I took both kids to a birthday party yesterday (on my own I should mention -whoop toot!) for a little friend of my daughter's who was turning one.
There were 3 sets of parent's there with 8 month old babies. Each of them asked me at different moments what the ages of my babies were. When I told them 17 months and 5 weeks the response was "oh", followed by an awkward pause. I could almost see the wheels turning in their heads doing the math and realizing that I was already pregnant with my second by the time my first was the age their babies are now. It felt like it was a good reminder to use birth control or something. It was pretty much a conversation ender, and from there another subject was brought up.
I have to think of something witty to say that will break the ice a bit next time. Hmmm... Any ideas?
Hey there -- it is almost as though you need to reassure people how much you wanted the 2nd child! Something like, "we were so happy to have 2 close in age" or "Anika loves being a big sister" or "you guessed it, I am a real wildcat!!"... just joking... but sometimes a personal reflection puts people at ease who have all sorts of fears of 2 kids close in age when actually it may not be as bad as all that.... :-) Sounds like you are doing a great job handling both the kids and the comments :) Hugs from Rhubarb
ReplyDeleteI always find that I want to ask if it was planned that way or if it was a surprise, but then think it's being nosey and maybe rude even though I'm just curious because people are interesting, which then ends up being an awkward silence. I like the above comment about saying how thrilled you are to have them. Or maybe "he was a really nice surprise" or something like that. I personally am envious when people have them close together because I wanted mine close together and at this point even if we have a second they'll be farther apart than I really wanted had I been able to plan it.
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