We had our work Christmas party this weekend. The food and entertainment were really quite good for a change. The only hard thing was that the most recent maternity leave person showed up with her 1 month old baby. This was a dress up, very adult oriented night, so I was a bit surprised to see the baby there. Anyway she wandered over to our table to say hello and show off the baby, and to ask me how I was recovering from my 'surgery'. (I was off medical leave for my non-descript 'medical procedure' when she had her baby). While we were having a superficial chat, the person sitting behind me chimed in with "you must be next in line to have one of these". My blood was boiling. I gave some vague response like "maybe, we'll see".
I am so sick of these kinds of comments and questions! People can be so insensitive without even realizing how much pain they are causing others! DH and I left fairly early in the evening because he was still getting over his cold. That suited me just fine. After the food and music finished, it would have been more of that small talk and uncomfortable mingling. I wanted to leave on a high note.
It is my personal preference that I choose not to share anything about IF at work. It's all baby/kids all the time in my line of work. Because I work with babies, I get asked this very question in it's many forms during the course of my job at least once a week (no exaggeration). Also, people in my office are very nosy and just love to know all about other people's private business. The last thing I want is a ton of questions (directly or behind my back) about IF/IVF. I need to have one part of my life where I can pretend things are normal and carry on as usual. So in order to hold myself together at work to do my job with the little ones, I need to keep it this way especially with parents with whom I have strictly a professional relationship with -it would just not be an appropriate conversation to start up when they ask if I have kids, want kids etc.
I am much more open with friends/acquaintances outside of work, and have given responses that are a bit more blunt or honest. It depends what kind of a mood I am in. Sometimes I'm just not up to being a spokeswoman for the infertility cause. Most people will never get it unless they've experienced it personally anyway no matter how much explaining you do.
Mostly a venting blog here, but if anyone has a response that had shut people up with their questions without sharing the very personal information that you might be having trouble conceiving, let er rip.
). With fertility treatments behind us and more ahead of us, there's no way we could entertain the idea of getting a newer car, or taking on another loan/ payment. This car, even though it is old and high mileage, still has potential to go for another couple of years, and I know it's quirks and what work has gone into it previously. My dad sourced out a mechanic that will do the work for cash, so I'm pleased to announce little blue should be back on the road in the next week! Whoo hoo -happy dance! 
