DH is still away for another few days, so it's been just me and my little 7.5 month old sidekick. She's actually really good company. We had a lazy morning playing on the floor together between naps. She has a new favorite toy (one with buttons and little animals inside doors that pop up). She's got some pretty solid babbling words now, and has just discovered her index finger so everything gets pointed at.
This afternoon we actually attended a first birthday party for a little friend from one of our mom & baby classes. It was a fairly relaxed affair in their backyard with lots of extended family and a few other baby friends. There was lots of idle chitter chatter since many of the guests didn't know each other. Of course the topic of second pregnancies came up in the mom's corner. Eye roll. My rote answer to this question is that we will more than likely just have the one. Next came all the mom-mom advice about how to conceive quickly. Barf! I hate listening to these "experts" who know it all. Anika and I thought that was a good time to wander around and check out the decorations. Burgers were served, then cake, and soon it was time to open gifts. Here's where it gets interesting...
The birthday boy's mom keeps saying she'll open one specific gift on the table at the very end. Hmmm... must be something special. Well, it was. Out of the box came a shirt with "I'm a big brother" printed on it. It took most people a brief moment to clue in. Then someone said "I wondered the other day, but I saw you drinking a glass of wine last night". She countered with "yes, I had just a little wine. I'm only 5 weeks along". Whoa! Announcing that early and drinking! Double barf! Of course the chatter went back to that favorite topic of everyone's. Suddenly Anika started to fuss a little (love my intuitive little girl) so I took the timely opportunity to bid everyone a farewell and took her home for nap time. Whew we got away!
She didn't nap so well after all the birthday excitement, so my plans to go out somewhere together or pick up a take out dinner got foiled. Ah well, I was still full from the party lunch and sometimes cereal for dinner is a welcome treat even if it's just Cheerios. We spent a little longer doing her bath and bedtime routine. She gives the best hugs and cuddles and I enjoy that last nursing session of the day and tucking a tired little one into bed so much.
So that was my day. I had my little girl with me to share my special day and wouldn't change that for anything, even if I have to eat Cheerios for dinner and endure baby #2 chatter at birthday parties every year from here forward. She is the best gift ever.
Happy Birthday!!! Are you planning to do something special when your DH is back?
ReplyDeleteAfter dealing with infertility we will never be so carefree like people who never had any problems getting pregnant. It's interesting that a lot of people announce their pregnancy the minute they find out, they never even consider that something can go wrong.My husband's niece told everyone as soon as she got positive pregnancy test, probably at 4 weeks based on her due date. Nina
Happy Birthday!
ReplyDeleteEven despite years of infertility and all the mess of losses, I'm still an early teller. Can't refrain from celebrating as soon as I can. This time around we knew for a whole two weeks before the beans were spilled. It was the most restraint I've had yet!
As for the drinking and her "justification"... wonders truly never cease. Although it's becoming more common, it's still pretty taboo in my mind. Even among many of the fertiles I know. Mind you that same woman would likely cringe at the 1/2 can of Original Coca-cola that I consume from time to time while expecting.
Glad you were able to escape relatively unscathed.
D
As far as birthday celebration plans go, you'll have to ask my hubbie about that! I hope he's got something up his sleeve.
ReplyDeleteYes, I was more aghast by the drinking that the early announcement, but each to her own I guess. We told at 11 weeks 6 days and I thought that was early!
Happy birthday! I hope you do something special to celebrate!
ReplyDeleteI can't imagine announcing a pregnancy that early and to so many people! Though I suppose if everything is so easy and you've never had a m/c before, it's the farthest thing from your mind and you think it can't/won't happen to you.
Happy Birthday! I'm sorry, but seems like showing off to do it that way with a t-shirt etc. Isn't the birthday party for her son and not supposed to be about her? Sounds like you are content with your sweet and cuddly bundle there and enjoying every moment which is so nice to hear. Many happy returns! Rhubarb
ReplyDeleteA wonderful belated birthday to you!!!
ReplyDeleteAs for early telling with possiblity of a m/c, I actually think our society does us a diservice when we 'feel' we need to keep it quiet. In the event of a loss its a very tragic event that many of us end up facing alone. The silent grief and the baby no one knew about...I always find it incredibly sad that society thinks we should have to suffer in silence. (mind you I didn't share Livy till I was 24 weeks with distant family...not because I wanted to suffer in silence, I was just tired of telling people my babies had died again).
As for the wine, many studies/societies show/believe minor amounts have no affect. Woúldn't be my first choice but neither would I judge a pregnant woman from having a glass on rare occassions. I have doc friends who even have made this decision so its hard to say one way or another.
Again, it sounds like your time with Anika has been fabulous and she is such a little doll.
Renee
I'm fully in support of telling a select circle of close family and friends -the same circle that would be your supports if you did end up miscarrying. I know this woman from an exercise class.
ReplyDeleteAs far as the wine goes, I guess I see the other side of this in my work all the time. Fetal alcohol exposure is far more problematic for the child than drug exposure. We don't know how much is safe, and it may vary from person to person, or from week to week of the pregnancy.