Hubbie can't attend our next appointment -UPDATE

14 May 2010

I had to chuckle when my husband told me more about the details of how this trip came up. When he got the phone call yesterday to offer him the contract in Europe he was blown away but then he told the guy he'd have to check his calendar and call back to confirm. He's got my ovulation dates programmed in as a recurring event on his electronic calendar. Haa Haa -I'd forgotten he did that when I was taking Clomid and needed to make sure he'd be around at the right time if I was going to suffer the s/e of that evil pill. Whew, he thought, this actually falls at a good time in my wife's cycle (2ww)! Then he noticed the RE appointment right in the middle of his trip -oh oh. That's when he called me at work to discuss it.

He was very excited when I picked up, so I knew right away something was up. When he told me he'd been offered a contract for 10 days in Cyprus, I thought he said Cypress referring to one of the local mountains where they held the Olympics recently. When he started talking about flights and missing our RE appointment, I was really confused. Why he couldn't just miss part of a day to come to our appointment? He said not Cypress -Cyprus the little island in the Mediterranean off of Greece. Wow, OK that's a huge opportunity that you can't just pass up. DH has never traveled outside of North America. I told him to call back and accept, and we'd sort out what we'd do about the appointment when I got home.

Hubs and I talked this over last night and decided (with the help of all of your input) that it makes sense for me to go on my own to our next appointment. If it was our first appointment, it would be different and we'd probably reschedule. This appointment is a follow up to discuss the outcome of the surgery, which we've already reviewed with the ObGyn, and to discuss next steps for treatment, which Dr. H alluded to already at the last visit. It will be midnight where he is, when it is 2pm here and I'll be at the appointment. If there is a way for him to get a reasonable connection by phone, we'll patch him in. If not, I'll just have to fill him in later. Hubbie usually just sits and listens at the appointments, and because I work in the medical field, I ask most of the questions. I write down all of my questions ahead of time, and make sure I don't leave before I have answers to them. I usually ask for copies of all of my medical records, so I'll ask Dr. H if he can copy us his consult note so Hubs can read it. I feel OK about going to the appointment alone, but one part that will be a bit lonely will be the 4 hours of driving (our clinic is 2 hours from where we live). I'll think about bringing someone (mom, friend) along if they are available, if only just for the drive.

You guys are right, life goes on and we can't put everything on hold because of infertility, and our level of commitment is not for the Dr. to judge. I am a bit jealous that he gets to go to such an exotic place without me. But really, who needs the warm Mediterranean sun anyway, when you can just daydream that you are there as you lie with your legs in the stirrups having the magic wand ultrasound poke around inside!?!?!