03 May 2011
This got me to thinking about all the other friends I’ve gotten to know here and how much I wish for everyone to get a miracle somehow or another. Whether it is through natural surprise, assisted reproduction, or adoption. I understand that feeling of being so very happy for someone who gets pregnant, but at the same time feeling so very sad and defeated about your own situation. I would never want to add to anyone’s pain. I’m gradually adjusting to life on the other side and finding my new place here on ivf.ca.
I’ve been waffling about whether to continue blogging here or not. I’m certainly not out of the woods yet -I haven’t even had my first u/s yet. I can tell you the worries are just as intense about that as they were during my cycle. But, do people really want to hear about yet another woman who got pregnant after infertility? Even if I am highlighting funny little stories of things that happen, or relating it back to my struggles, what purpose does it serve for me, and for the readers? Hmmm...
Just the other day I was wondering if you would continue to blog, and I hope you do since your blogs crack me up. I've never been PG (I do hope to join those ranks one day) but, I think that for us IF ladies, getting that BFP just means an extended 2ww to a 9 month wait and we still need to support each other.
ReplyDeleteLMC, 03 May 2011 - 09:56 PM
Please stay, if you feel comfortable.
dawnkey, 03 May 2011 - 10:46 PM
I hope you choose to stay. It's actually a great inspiration to me to see couples who try so hard, for so long, to actually get pregnant ... Makes me think maybe it'll work out for us too.
Hollie384, 04 May 2011 - 12:14 AM
Oh, please stay SD!
leigh14, 04 May 2011 - 03:43 AM
Hey SilverDollar...I have felt the same way. But I can tell you we need the support just the same as those struggling to get the BFP. Because once the BFP occurs, well we just know WAYYY too much and if you are like me, terrified to lose it. I am 29 weeks today and still scared! The fertiles just can't provide the same level of support with regard to the fears but they do help when the challenges of pregnancy kick in (normal stuff like morning sickness, aches/pains, heartburn) or the more complicated and challenging stuff like bed rest due to pre-eclampsia, shortened cervix, etc. So I have found that blogging helps. Maybe consider changing your blog theme so that everyone knows its a pregnancy blog. As you know I have a blog not on this site as I wanted to protect those that are still in the trenches but I leave no stone uncovered with regard to topics and some of them would have been super beneficial if I blogged about them here. And some of them likely would have got me biotch slapped from those still struggling...but it is what it is. Its tough to be on the other side...but I have found blogging helped me through the hard days when the normal and not so normal challenges of pregnancy popped up. Congrats to your friend...I know. I have been getting an abundance of birth updates from old IF friends I met in a local IF support group of late. Its incredible...slowly but surely we are making it to the other side...whether with a baby that is DE, DS, DEmb, natural BFP, own eggs, adoption, or just peace in our hearts that childfree is the place to be...we are getting there.So I hope you stay. I know that you will be sensitive in your topics but at the same time true to your feelings. Its a strange new world being pregnant!
LisainSK, 04 May 2011 - 06:09 AM
Personally SilverDollar I love your blog. I love it so much my mom was praying for you too during this past cycle! except I messed up your name a few times and called you silverspoon. However, I think I may hang around following your blog until you find out about 1 or 2 sticky beans..as I would love to have twins someday myself! but after that..it will just be a teensy bit too painful for me and it's not because i'm not happy for you because your dedication and determination was inspiring..just for me..it would be a little too hard..I get enough reminders every day...but thank you for such a wonderful blog! do what you decide and I will follow as I need :th_acheerlead:) Best Wishes to you and the next 9 months...
sonrisas, 04 May 2011 - 06:45 AM
Thank you, this is great. I like open and honest responses.
ReplyDeletesilverdollar, 04 May 2011 - 06:53 AM
Please continue your blog. It gives us all hope. Also, your win is our win because we're all in the same boat. How I look at it is that you scored one for the team!
doubleranebow, 04 May 2011 - 07:18 AM
I remember "meeting" you on the VFC thread when we were both starting there last spring. I've followed your story there and enjoyed you blog here. I was totally thrilled to see you get your bfp and I hope the best for you. I really appreciate that you continue to cheer on those of us who are still struggling. If you continue to blog here I'll still read. If I continue to have failures there is that feeling of being happy for those who've moved on while feeling a bit left behind. The good thing is though I can choose to read or not read blogs etc depending on how I'm feeling on a particular day.
Yvonne, 04 May 2011 - 07:34 AM
I would certainly miss your blogs if you decided to stop - especially the funny ones. I think it's not so much a question of if you should blog, but how you should blog. Does that make sense?
impatient, 04 May 2011 - 08:11 AM
Last month I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl, a miracle after 6 years TTC. I'm not sure I belong here anymore, but continue to lurk and cheer folks on on their journeys. Your blog has made me laugh and cry during my time here and I'm thrilled for your news. Stay here as long as you feel comfortable, as Sonrisas puts it, the decision to read your blog is the readers', we all have a choice.
Kiwi, 04 May 2011 - 08:34 AM
Ya, finding the new balance is tough. I've tried to leave on a number of occassions. I even set up a blog elsewhere, but alas, home is where the heart is and I never stray far. I wish that conceiving and having a child would be the easy fix that would simply head all the wounds with a wave of it's wand. But it seems, even that isn't as easy as it would seem. Do what feels best and don't rush into any decisions. Know that there are plenty of us here who would be delighted to keep up with your blog.
DesignerBug, 04 May 2011 - 11:58 AM
I love hearing what you have to say! I recently got a BFP after 7 years of trying; I'm only 9 weeks along and I can tell you I've spent about 80-90% of my time obsessing and being anxious about everything single thing. I am absolutely grateful for every pregnancy-related worry I have, but what I mean to say is that you have something to very valuable contribute. Over 7 years of trying I needed to read people's stories, and conclusions, whether a BFP or not. People like me need to follow your journey and read your insights. Your experience now is a very important part of the infertility spectrum; I love your blog and I hope you keep going! I am wishing you a very happy and healthy 9 months
sheba, 04 May 2011 - 08:10 PM
I really like your blog, please don't stop. Plus, I want to know if you'll be having twins, how will your u/s go, and all that. Also, I think you'll need the forum during these very long 9 months. An IF pregnancy is not like a Fertile's pregnancy, be it the 1st, 2nd or 4th. We're always expecting the worse. In my case, I didn't get confident till after my baby was 1 month old. Believe it or not, I kept waiting for something to happen. Here you'll be understood. I know how you're feeling, and its a little hard. I have learned that you just have to be more careful of what and how you write. I wish you the best of lucks, whatever you decide!
bal, 05 May 2011 - 06:41 AM
Yes, there is no question that I will continue to blog, it's just how and where. Perhaps I will change the title to start, and then may consider moving it to blogger or something down the road if need be.I certainly don't intend to disappear from the forums, but will be conscious of where and what I post.
silverdollar, 05 May 2011 - 07:42 AM